The divorce rate in the United States and other Western nations has increased greatly in the past century. What was once considered to be a permanent institution has come to the point where nearly half of all marriages end in divorce. What are the reasons for divorce? Some studies have looked at divorce, but come to different conclusions about what is at the root of divorce. However, there are some common reasons for divorce that doe come up again and again.
There are some circumstances in which most people would agree that divorce is the inevitable result. When one of the partners in a marriage, whether it is the husband or it is the wife, is physically or emotionally abusive, and unwilling or unable to get treatment for the abusive tendencies, divorce is often the most common result. A man or a woman who is in physical danger from their spouse should not stay with them. Even the most conservative of religions that look at divorce as being taboo tend to see divorce as a reasonable step in the case of physical abuse. An abusive spouse who is unwilling to get help will never change on his own; when this happens, it is probably time to end a marriage.
A cheating spouse is another one of the most common reasons for divorce. The feelings of distrust and betrayal that comes when a wife or a husband cheats are too much to handle, and the offense often is too serious to forgive. On the other hand, many couples have weathered this sort of storm and, after a long time and a long, hard road to recovery, been able to stay together. In these instances, while the vow of fidelity has been broken, the vow to stay together for better and worse can sometimes still be kept. Here again, the couple has to be willing to try to save the marriage.
There are other reasons for divorce, as well. Sometimes couples cannot come to agreements about children, either about whether to have them or how to raise them once they have them. Other times, difficulties with in-laws, other family, or friends can lead to a divorce. Another reason for divorce can be a conflict of personal beliefs or philosophy. Sometimes, during the dating and honeymoon periods, religious or political differences don’t seem very important, but after a few months or a few years they can be a reason for divorce. In other cases, financial problems become reasons for divorce, where the couple cannot agree about how finances are to be spent, or where money becomes more important than their relationship.