The decision to put a child up for adoption is not an easy decision. It is one that many mothers have had to agonize over, and have had to come to terms with. Certainly, there is often a sense of loss as well as guilt when you put your child up for adoption. There is also the concern for your baby’s well-being, as you begin to realize that you will never be able to look out for him or her. This is why the process of picking potential adoptive parents is an extremely important process, both for you and for your child.
In most situations today where you are going to be putting your baby up for adoption, you will have a wide range of choices to make in terms of picking potential adoptive parents. Many adoptions today are open adoptions, which means that you not only have the opportunity to get to know and interact with the birth parents, but you will even have access to identifying information about them, and be able to stay in touch with them after the birth of your baby. If you are looking into an open adoption, you will have access to a lot more information as to the potential adoptive parents. If you have a closed adoption or a semi-open adoption, you may not have as much information on which to base your pick of potential adoptive parents. Still, many birth parents who are putting their child up for adoption prefer a situation where there is not this sort of exchange of information.
Still, even in a closed adoption, you will have access to a great wealth of information. Every potential adoptive parent will typically create a profile, which includes things like religion, education, occupation, and family history. It is also common practice for potential adoptive parents to write a “Birth Parent Letter” – which is a letter to a prospective birth parent that tells something more about the potential adoptive parents, and gives the birth mother more information perhaps as to the background of the potential adoptive parents, and often includes information about how the potential adoptive parents came to the decision to adopt, and perhaps even a little bit about their parenting ideas.
Ultimately, you can be as involved in picking potential adoptive parents as you want. It is your child, and it is up to you if that child is going to be adopted. If the child is going to be adopted, you can be very involved in picking potential adoptive parents.