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What will you/did you tell your children, conceived after struggling? How about the children you already have/had, as you juggle doctor's appointments during your treatments?
Michele
In the beginning, my husband was dead-set against filling our children in on any of the details it would take to bring them here. He wanted to treat it as a secret, to protect their feelings; he felt it would be a heavy burden for any child to learn about such struggles and high-tech details. Over time, after the birth of our son, and given the fact that so many people in our families know what we went through, he has changed his mind. My biggest fear is not that our son would find out what we went through - it's that someone would feel inclined to tell him, or to let it slip, and he would feel it's a dirty secret we choose to keep hidden from him. The solution we've decided on is to tell him that we did indeed struggle to bring him here, but that our determination finally paid off. We won't elaborate on the specifics, but this will open the door to understanding. This way, if anyone ever told him, we've left the door open for discussion and understanding.
Nancy H
My husband and I feel at this point, that in telling our
children is pointless unless they question something. If our
children should question the means of their conception, we would
then discuss with them the events that lead up to it. We would
tell them how much they were wanted, how anxious we were to
become parents so we could share with them our life as well as
sharing who we are.
And we would tell them that they are indeed blessings from God
and how thankful we will always be.
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