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Main Page Site Index Getting Pregnant Pregnancy Parenting Pregnancy and Parenting Journals Fertility Nutrition Pregnant Moms Morning Sickness Women's Health Child Health	Finding Your Mentor by Cheryl Gochnauer In high school, it could have been the coach who believed in your abilities. In college, a professor who challenged you to think beyond ordinary logic. On the job, the boss who took you under her wing, then taught you to soar in the business world. Mentors appear throughout the seasons of our lives. It's a wise woman who takes advantage of their wisdom. As you consider becoming a stay-at-home mom, talk to women who are already there. Gather with moms your own age, but also interview older mothers whose children are grown. They've seen it all, from budgeting to Band-aids, and have great insight on the stay-at-home mom's life. Most helpful is the mom who's presently in the thick of it, but who's been enjoying her at-home role a few years. You'll get firsthand, up-to-date info on handling the stresses and joys of this precious profession from someone who has not only been there, done that, but is doing it still. Be direct; ask the tough questions. What's it really like, living on a reduced income? Does your husband respect you as he did when you were working outside the home? How do you keep your foot in the door at work, in case you want to come back after the kids are older? Even if you believe the worst day at home has got to beat the best day at the office, find out how she handles that inevitable tough session. What DO you do all day? Will 24 hours a stretch, week upon week with a toddler turn your mind to mush? More than likely, what you hear from moms who have gone before will make you even more anxious to join them. I've tried it both ways, and this more relaxed, more focused lifestyle has done wonders for me and my family. Although it is definitely not for everyone, the at-home lifestyle definitely IS for me. I invite anyone else who's interested to come check it out. But be smart. Do your homework. Find your mentor, and lay a solid foundation before you quit your job. Then if you choose to become a stay-at-home mom, you can do so confidently and fearlessly, knowing it is the right move for you. You can e-mail Cheryl at cheryl@homebodies.org or visit her website at www.homebodies.org. Her new book, "So You Want to Be a Stay-at-Home Mom," is available at your favorite bookstore or online at www.ivpress.com. Copyright 1999 Cheryl Gochnauer.