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The Mystery of Pre-Birth Communication by Elisabeth Hallett
"My dreams about my daughter started about one year before we conceived
her," the letter began. I felt shivers running up and down my spine as
I read on. Renee's letter was a wonderful story of pre-birth
communication -- those mysterious connections we may feel with our
children-to-be.
"My husband and I weren't trying hard to have a baby," she wrote, "but
thought that if it happened it was meant to be. I remember going to bed
one night wondering to myself when I would become a mother. That night,
I had a dream that seemed to last all night long...
"I was talking to a little girl in the dream. We were just light and
carefree and chatting about anything and everything. I woke up
remembering the dream vividly and feeling great. Over the course of the
next year, I would have a dream like this at least once a month,
sometimes more often than that. We'd spend hours playing and laughing
and enjoying each other. For a while I didn't know her name or even
that she was the child I would give birth to. I finally asked her if
she was my daughter and she said ‘yes.' I asked her when I would get to
meet her in the flesh and she said ‘soon.'
"Work got extremely busy the next summer and I was working what seemed
like around the clock. Just as the hard push was over at work, I was
talking to my girlfriend's daughter Rachael, who was five years old.
All of a sudden, she said to me, ‘Renee, you're pregnant!' and got so
excited for me. I didn't take her seriously at that time, I didn't
think it was possible. Since I had been working so hard and was so worn
out, I hadn't noticed that my dreams of the little girl had stopped.
Sure enough, a week or two later, I found out that I was pregnant! When
Rachael told me I was pregnant, I was five weeks along."
"I will never forget the little girl in my dreams," says Renee. "My
daughter (twenty months old now) has changed my life in so many ways."
She adds, "I've told quite a few family and friends about my dreams
prior to conceiving my daughter. Most think that it's a neat idea but
don't really believe me."
While it may be unusual to hear a story like Renee's, in fact pre-birth
contacts are happening to many parents-to-be! Some of us are shy about
sharing them, or feel they are too private and personal to talk about.
But sharing them can be a joy, and hearing other people's stories helps
us to open our inner eyes and ears to these exciting possibilities.
Long before your child is born, you may feel a connection, an inkling of
the baby-to-be. It may be in a dream, so vivid that you feel you are
meeting a real person who already exists, somewhere, somehow... Here is
what another mother remembers:
"My son was born five months ago and the first contact that I remember
happened three years ago when my husband and I first met and fell in
love. It was during our first month together that I entered into my
journal a dream where I saw our son Austin playing with his dad. The
dream was very vivid and the image of him as clear as a photograph. I
wrote a physical description of him and knew what a beautifully special
little soul he is. I fell so in love with this child that for two years
all I could think about was getting pregnant and being able to hold him
in my arms."
The idea of connecting with a future child before conception may seem
almost unbelievable. It's easier perhaps to accept the dreams and
intuitions and "knowing" feelings that come later, during pregnancy.
Austin's mother continues her story:
"After two years and finally a commitment to be married I became
pregnant. Throughout my pregnancy I dreamed of him and he always looked
the same. Same golden red hair and beautiful blue eyes. (This
description wouldn't be considered a "genetic given" considering my
husband and I both have dark hair and eyes.) And in our dreams we'd fly
together. We'd meet at the mouth of a river where it meets the ocean
and we'd fly the stretch of the beach together playfully.
"Now that he's here I get physical tangible evidence of what I felt
about him all along. He sparkles magically like the sun on the ocean on
a clear day. His spirit is as free as a happy gull flying along the
beach. His hair is like spun gold, each strand holding rays of
sunshine. And his violet blue eyes shine with the hope and purity of
intent of all humanity."
What a delight to think that in our dreams we may be able to play with
our children before they're born! Many pre-birth connections are
playful and fun like those in the stories above. Others seem to have a
different purpose. Some bring news of the pregnancy to an unsuspecting
mother- or father-to-be. Others come at times of anxiety and help to
reassure a worried parent.
Mary's experience was the "announcing" kind, and it happened while she
was wide awake and talking with her college teacher. Suddenly she heard
a different, inner voice that was almost like a buzzing sound. The
voice said: "The reason you have felt physically burdened and
emotionally burdened is because you have invited me into your life. I
am here with you. I am here." Mary says that she felt very warm after
receiving this message. "My heart felt warm, as if I had been hugged by
an old friend," she recalls. "I found out the next day that I was two
weeks pregnant."
Another woman felt an inner response when she needed reassurance during
pregnancy. Vivien says: "There was a period, about five weeks before my
due date, when I was feeling really badly. I think it was because I had
my third cold since getting pregnant, and just couldn't eat the amounts
and types of foods that I ‘should,' and I couldn't control my negative
thoughts, and I felt even more guilt because of these. I was
apologizing to the unborn baby, in a state of deep shame, and all of a
sudden I felt like I was being hugged by a field of light, and an
unheard message appeared in my consciousness, which told me, ‘Don't
worry-- I'm fine!'"
And so, what do these experiences mean? Is it possible that our future
children come visiting, to laugh and play with us, to hug and encourage
us before they take up their baby roles? I don't know the answer. I do
know that we can be unusually sensitive during the time that we are
opening up our hearts and lives to a child, whether by birth or by
adoption. It's a good time to pay attention to subtle hints as well as
dramatic encounters.
My own pre-conception experience was the subtle kind. It happened over
and over during the months before I conceived my daughter. Just at the
edge of sleep, suddenly I'd feel as though I had caught sight of the
dearest person in the world. It was like a little fountain of joy
springing up inside of me. But who was this person I loved so much?
The feeling of it didn't match anyone I already knew. I like to think
it was my soon-to-be daughter, coming close -- but I don't know for
sure.
How about you? Have you glimpsed your child's face in a dream, or felt
a loving presence, or just had a sudden flash of knowing something about
your baby-to-be? If you're pregnant now, or hope to be pregnant soon,
keep your inner eyes and ears open! Someone may be trying to get in
touch. . .
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