Childless Couple Discrimination

Happy childless couple

Having a baby is a life-changing decision. It places a lot of stress on potential parents. Additional stress can occur when friends and family start pressing the issue.


Parents want to pass their legacy down through the generations. In addition, many parents simply love being grandparents. That’s why they place so much pressure on you to have your own children. This is especially true if you’re an only child.

With parents of multiple children, other problems arise. As your begin to have their own kids, you may grow apart. Over time, your interests change. You see their loved ones less frequently and holidays can become awkward as you try to get to know one another again.

Pressure to have kids isn’t normally meant to be malicious. When this pressure comes from peers, it’s often simple curiosity. As far as For acquaintances, asking if you are going to have kids can sometimes be a way of becoming better acquainted.

Handling the Question

“When are you going to have a baby?” Your response depends on whether or not having a child is even an option. For couples who don’t have a choice due to infertility, the answer can be an emotional one.

Fortunately, there are some strategies you can use to handle it.

  • Have a set of prepared responses. These can be crucial to diffusing a potentially volatile situation. Examples include, “we’re waiting until we finish college,” or “I want to be able to stay home with my children, so it’s going to be a while before we can afford to do that.” In some cases, the response might even be, “We’ve talked about it, but we’re just not ready.
  • Be straightforward. If prepared responses don’t work it’s best to let the questioner understand this is a personal decision. Make it clear that you’re not comfortable with the conversation, and in many cases the questioner will simply back down.
  • Stand firm. Don’t let others influence a decision that is solely yours. Make it clear to friends, family and everyone else that it’s something you and your partner will decide, quite apart from their opinions on the matter.

Don’t let others pressure you into a decision you’re not ready to make, or judge you for the decisions you have made.

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