What You Need to Know Before Putting Your Child Up For Adoption
There are certain things that you need to know before putting your child up for adoption. Putting your child up for adoption is not an easy decision to make, and it is a decision that is never taken lightly.
The first thing that you need to know before putting your child up for adoption is that, once the adoption process is done, you will have no legal right to have any contact with or knowledge about your child or that child’s adoptive family. While many adoptions today are considered “open” adoptions, where the adoptive family intends for you to be able to have some form of contact or another with your child, the fact of the matter is that, legally, they can pretty much do whatever it is that they want. Know ahead of time that, if you later want a relationship with your child, you will face an uphill battle in terms of the legal process.
Before putting your child up for adoption, you need to know that you are going to experience a great loss. It is likely that you will experience some degree of grief or another for the rest of your life. While putting your child up for adoption may indeed be the best thing for your child and for you, it will be something that will haunt you for a long, long time. Be prepared for these feeling of loss, and be ready to grieve for your lost child.
You need to know, before putting up your child for adoption, that your child may grow up resenting you. Your child may feel abandoned, and may never know or understand the reasons that you put your child up for adoption. As an adult, your child may try to find you, and want to meet you. You need to be aware of the possibility that you will one day have to answer your child’s questions.
Finally, you should know some things about the decision itself. First, you generally have some time after the birth to change your mind. The laws may vary in your state, but it is usually at least several weeks. Second, you need to know that you can wait to put your child up for adoption after trying to be a parent. You are in control of what happens to your child right up until the final process occurs.