What To Say To Someone Who Has Had A Miscarriage

When a friend or family member experiences any sort of traumatic event, it can be difficult to figure out what to say to them. Whether it is a romantic loss, a debilitating disease, or anything else that might make the person feel sad, it is important to think about what to say. It is especially important to think carefully about what to say to someone who has had a miscarriage.

The most important thing that you can do for someone who has had a miscarriage is to be there for them. Just physically being present or regularly touching base with them via the telephone or e-mail can mean a lot to someone who is struggling with grief due to having had a miscarriage. Many times, parents (both women and men) who have had a miscarriage tend to shut down, and shut themselves off from the outside world. Even though it may not seem like it, this is a time when they do need you to be there.

It is also important to not just ignore their loss. It is often the case that someone who has had a miscarriage is completely consumed by thoughts of grief. If you only want to talk to them about other things, it can make them feel like maybe you don’t care about their grief. At the same time, you can’t force them to talk about it. Sometimes, simply saying “I am sorry for your loss” is enough to let them know that you do care, and that you are there for them.

You also should spend less time worrying about what to say to someone who has had a miscarriage, and spend more time listening to the person who has had a miscarriage. Hearing their concerns, letting them cry, and things like that will help to comfort the person. Many times, someone who has had a miscarriage doesn’t need you to say anything; she may not need words of advice, but rather just a willing ear.

Finally, you should try to avoid saying anything that might make the person who has had a miscarriage feel guilty. Most people who have miscarriages tend to have some amount of guilt or another about the miscarriage. The truth, however, is that the vast majority of miscarriages are not caused by anything that the pregnant woman did, and there is nothing that could have been done to stop it either.


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