Keeping Romance Alive When You Have Children
The fast pace of the modern world is enough to strain any marriage. Many couples both work outside of the home, leaving very little time in the evenings for family. After family time and the kids are in bed, one or both parents are often so exhausted that romance is the last thing on their minds. Still, there are things that you can do to keep romance alive when you have children. Some of the things you can do can include:
- Use a lock on your bedroom door, and teach your children to respect the privacy of the parents bedroom.
- Find a babysitter. Getting grandma to take junior to the latest Disney movie on a Saturday afternoon might just be the cure to your romantic dilemma.
- Use reliable birth control. This takes the worry of “oh no, not another one!” away, and can lead to extremely intense sex.
- Cuddle. Just because you don’t have the energy to make love doesn’t mean you can’t be intimate. Watch the evening news curled up in each others arms.
- Spend fun time together. Do something you enjoy, such as a hobby or a sporting activity together. Not only will it help to keep romance alive, it will help your marriage in general.
- Talk. Talk about your day, about your life, about your feelings.
- Listen. Ask about your spouse’s day, life, and feelings, and be genuinely interested.
- Kiss. As simple as it sounds, a good kiss can go a long way in keeping romance alive. Instead of a peck on the cheek before work in the mornings, decide that you will always leave the house with a good kiss.
- Be creative. While she’s reading a story to the kids, make a heart shape out of rose petals on her pillow. Arrange a weekend getaway weeks in advance, but don’t tell him until the night before. Visit her at work, and steal her away for lunch on a moment’s notice. Write him a poem. Make her breakfast in bed… on a Tuesday. Plan an indoor picnic, or have a nice outside fire and roast marshmallows together.
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