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Impact Of Divorce On Children


The impact of a divorce on a family can often be extremely severe. And, all
too often, when a couple is going through a divorce, the children are often
the ones most affected, and are often the ones that are given the least
amount of attention. Children can be severely traumatized by divorce,
especially if the divorce is a nasty one, and/or if there is a prolonged or
an intense custody battle.

A divorce impacts a child or children on many levels. When a child is
impacted by divorce, some of the ways that a child might express the ipmacts
of divorce can be:
– large amounts of anger, directed both toward others and themselves
– frequent breaking of rules
– drug and/or alcohol abuse
– destructive behavior
– frequent guilt
– problems with defiance
– increasing isolation or withdrawal from friends and family
– thoughts of suicide or violence
– increased or early sexual activity
– a failure to acknowledge responsibility.

Divorce impacts some children more than others. However, all children will
be impacted by a divorce. The things that parents do and dont do will
greatly impact exactly how much a child is affected by the divorce. In
addition, the childs gender, age, psychological health, and maturity will
also all affect how a divorce impacts a child.

Children who go through a divorce often are impacted in terms of their
self-esteem. They may believe that they themselves caused the divorce, or
that they did something wrong that made mommy and/or daddy want to not be
with them.

Children are also impacted by a divorce in the area of security. Fears that
both parents will abandon the child are common, as are fears about what will
happen to them next. In addition, the absence of one of their parents can
make the child feel extremely lonely.

A divorce impacts a familys structure and operating procedures. In some
cases, a divorce will mean that a child literally loses a parent, only to
see them once or twice in a year, or even less. This can also cause a child
to lose contact with the family of the non-custodial parent, as the child
may be less and less likely to see those grandparents, uncles, aunts, or
cousins. Basic logistics, such as holidays, birthday parties, and school
activities are also impacted by a divorce.

Divorce will not be easy for a parent; but a parent is a grown adult who has
(hopefully) mastered coping skills. Children, on the other hand, are not
necessarily as prepared as an adult in this regard. If you are going
through a divorce and have children, you need to make the way that the
divorce impacts them your top priority.



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