Getting on with Your Life After Adoption

Making the decision to place your child up for adoption is not an easy decision for anyone to make. There may be a variety of reasons that you would put your child up for adoption. It may be that you are young, and don’t believe you would be a very good mother. It could be that your baby was born with certain special needs that you are not physically or emotionally able to take care of. Regardless of the reasons that you have put your child up for adoption, it can be very difficult getting on with your life after adoption.

After adoption, you will very likely feel a strong sense of loss. This loss can be very similar, in many respects, to the death of a child. Unless you have entered into an open adoption situation, it is not likely that you will ever see the child again. If you do ever meet your child again, it will probably be many years down the road, when they are all grown up. The grief that you feel is normal and natural, but that doesn’t make it hurt any less. However, if you are going to get on with your life after adoption, you need to experience this grief, and to work through those feelings just as you would if you had lost a child in another way.

There may be other feelings, as well. You may feel guilt. You may feel anger. You may feel confused and frustrated. An important part of getting on with your life after adoption may be to consider psychological treatments, such as counseling or therapy. At the very least, you should probably try to sort through some of these issues with a trusted friend or family member, someone who can lend you a willing ear, and help you to come to terms with things.

Getting on with your life after adoption is not easy. In fact, in many ways, it may be more difficult getting on with your life after adoption than it was to give your baby up for adoption in the first place. However, in the long run, if you work at it, things are going to be OK.


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