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The fast paced lifestyle we lead makes finding time for housework and other chores near impossible. It’s definitely easier to pay a small fee for services that you don’t have the time or energy to do yourself. Unfortunately it are those luxuries that have to go when financial times get tough. But don’t get discouraged- if everyone in the family does their part, the burden shouldn’t fall on one person alone. And it will give you the opportunity to teach your children the value of making sacrifices and supporting one another in times of hardship.
Start by creating a household chore chart and hang it in a common area of the house- the fridge is a great place. It is best to divvy up the chores by age, giving younger children easy tasks such as retrieving the newspaper in the morning or setting the table for dinner, and leave more difficult projects, like unloading the dishwasher and vacuuming the playroom, to the older children. Consider providing the kids a small allowance at the end of each week if their chores are completed. Some people want to teach their children the value of money at a young age, while others prefer their children participate in household chores without compensation to instill in them the values of cooperation and family obligation.
Cancel extra services to which you have routinely subscribed in the past such as lawn care, cleaning, snow removal, dog walker, dry cleaning, among others. Distribute these chores between family members, pairing younger children with older siblings or yourself and your spouse. Maintaining your own lawn will give you the chance to share the joy of gardening with your young children. Let them pick out an herb or flower seed at the greenhouse to grow in the backyard, and show them how to nourish and water the new plant so it will grow.
Share walking the dog with your younger children- the chore will give you rare time to spend together, just the two of you. Take advantage of the opportunity to ask your child about his/her schoolwork, friends, and sports team. Not only will you save money by walking your dog yourself, you’ll get the chance to bond with your children on a daily basis.
While dry cleaning is much more convenient, especially for delicate items, the price can quickly add up. Instead of taking dress shirts to the cleaners each week, switch to washing them in your home washing machine on delicate settings. Shirts can be dried with air only and ironed with starch to achieve that crispness in the collar that dry cleaners do so well.
Making sacrifices are part of saving money, and the transition period can take some adjustment. But in this case, giving up time and convenience can turn out to be a good trade for more time with your family and the opportunity to teach your children valuable life lessons.
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Menopause does not mean that sex has to end or that even desiring sex has to end. In fact, many women are able to find ways to make sex just as enjoyable if not more so than before they experienced the change of life. One of the benefits of sex after menopause is that in most cases the children are grown and out of the house, allowing for more spontaneity and time alone. Not to mention, the risk of pregnancy is eliminated so there are no concerns over birth control and there are no menstrual periods to ruin the mood!
Many individuals who are post menopause generally find that getting aroused may take longer, which just means more fun during foreplay! Men may find their sex drive decreases somewhat around this time too and couples can have fun exploring their bodies and their new sex lives.
It is important to keep in mind, too, that there are many drugs you may be taking that may affect your libido. That’s not to say that menopause might be playing a role, but it is important to keep in mind that many medications like antidepressants, tranquilizer, antihypertensive meds, and more, can affect your sex life and libido. Arthritis, diabetes, heart disease, and other can also affect your ability to become sexually aroused. Women may find their stress levels and self image both play roles in how often they want to have sex.
There are treatment options available, although there is not a drug on the market for women that is similar to Viagra. Not yet, anyway. Nevertheless, there are some treatment options available to you and you may even find that engaging in significant foreplay is really all that is needed to establish the mood.
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The way that you go about talking to your child about having a new sibling is important. You have to be conscious of many factors, including your child’s age, maturity, and ability to understand the concepts that go along with having a new sibling. In addition, you need to be able to not only talk to your child about having a new sibling, but to listen to him, and to effectively understand his concerns, fears, and questions.
The most important thing to remember when talking to your child about having a new sibling is that your child may not be interested in the same things that you are interested in. You may be interested in talking to your child about the birth, such as where your child will be during the birth, or about things like how your child should treat the new sibling. While these things are important, when you first start talking to your child about having a new sibling you should instead listen to what they are saying. It may be that they are more concerned with the question of whether the new sibling will have blue eyes than they are with staying overnight at grandma’s house while you are at the hospital or birthing center.
Communicating with your child on a level that she can understand is essential. You need to use words that your child will understand, and to try to stay away from abstractions that your child may have some difficulty with. A good example is talking with your child about when the new sibling will be born. It may be more difficult for a preschooler, for example, to understand a phrase like “in six months” than it would be to understand something like “just before Christmas” or “Right after school is done for the year.” By using language and ideas that are appropriate to your child’s age and maturity, you are more likely to have a successful time talking to your child about having a new sibling.
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The short answer is that, yes, knowing your date of conception may be able to make your due date slightly more accurate. However, a due date is still difficult to pin down. This is because it can take a variable amount of time for an egg to become fertilized, and for that fertilized egg to implant and begin to grow, before pregnancy actually occurs.
Generally speaking, your due date will be determined using what is called “Nagele’s Rule.” This method for determining due date was developed by Dr. Nagele in the mid-nineteenth century. Dr. Nagele calculated that the average pregnancy lasted 266 days from the date of conception, or 280 days from the last menstrual period (referred to as LMP). This is where we get the figure that pregnancy lasts for 40 weeks - 40 weeks is exactly 280 days.
The thing is, even using the LMP date isn’t exactly accurate. 280 days is just an average. This can be different based on any number of factors. For example, ethnicity can influence the time it takes for your baby to be due. It can take 288 days, for example, for a first-time Caucasian mother to have her baby. The mother’s age, her nutrition, and even her weight can push the due date one way or another.
One way that some women can get a more accurate due date is by measuring Basal Body Temperature (BBT) and Luteinizing Hormone (LH). Measuring these two factors can tell you exactly when you ovulate. By adding 266 days to the time that you ovulate, you can come up with an even more accurate due date.
There may be other ways to help figure out a more accurate due date, as well. For example, an experienced health care provider may be able to help determine your due date by using ultrasound technology to determine the gestational age of your baby, and thereby calculate your due date. Another way to calculate your due date is to track HCG levels in early pregnancy. For a normal pregnancy, HCG levels double roughly every 2 1/2 days. Your health care provider may be able to perform these tests to help determine your due date.
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A loss of a pregnancy can be devastating to a woman. The despair, guilt, depression, anger, and the entire rest of the range of emotions that a woman may feel after a miscarriage is both common and normal. However, many people fail to realize that men’s reactions to a miscarriage may be just as severe as women’s reactions, and may be just as devastating.
To be sure, the fact that the man has not physically had anything happen to him during the process of the miscarriage does create some differences in men’s reactions. However, this does not mean that men don’t react, it just means that they have different reasons for reacting.
Some men may have difficulty expressing the feelings of sadness and loss that can occur when their partner has a miscarriage. They may bury themselves in work, or they may become suddenly cold and emotionally distant. Men may not be able or willing to talk much about their loss, or about their feelings. Some men will throw themselves into a physical task, during which they can try to begin to wrap their minds and their emotions around what has happened. Here again, the fact that you cannot view a man’s emotions doesn’t mean that he doesn’t have them.
Some men do indeed have trouble relating to the loss that a woman feels after a miscarriage, to be sure. For some men, because there is no physical change in their bodies, the pregnancy often doesn’t become really real to them until after a baby is born. In these cases, a miscarriage may not be nearly as traumatic. However, this would seem to be the exception, rather than the rule. Most men whose partner has a miscarriage do indeed react the same way emotionally as women do, even if they do not express those emotions.
In addition, while the actual miscarriage may not impact a man as directly as it does his partner, he is impacted in other ways. While his partner is struggling, he generally feels a great deal of care and concern for her. He may feel as though it is his job to try to cheer her up, for example. When this happens, it is possible that his partner may become upset, or feel like the miscarriage didn’t phase the man. Far from it, he is often just trying to help her cope with the situation the best that he knows how.
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Fertility treatments do present certain risks. Fertility drugs can occasionally lead to the enlargement of a woman’s ovaries, which can cause pain, nausea, vomiting, or bloating. Assisted Reproductive Therapy (ART for short) such as IVF carry their own risks, including bleeding, infections, or damage to the blood vessels or internal organs. However, these types of risks generally won’t create a “high risk” in terms of pregnancy.
The one way in which fertility treatments can cause a pregnancy to be high risk is in the greater risk of twins or multiples. Around one third of women who undergo ART will become pregnant with twins or multiples, a rate that is much higher than women who conceive without ART. If you become pregnant with twins or multiples, your pregnancy will be considered to be high risk.
One of the biggest risks with a twin pregnancy after fertility treatments is the risk of premature labor and premature birth. Mothers who have a twin or multiple pregnancy are twice as likely to have preterm labor than mothers who have only one baby. Preterm labor is loosely understood as going into labor prior to the due date. Fortunately, if you are pregnant with twins, you can lessen your risk of having preterm labor by talking to your health care provider about how to avoid preterm labor and about how to watch for the signs of premature labor. The other good news is that, while premature birth still carries a great deal of risk for your babies, medical advances make it much more likely that preterm babies can survive and thrive.
Another serious risk for moms who are pregnant with multiples is the risk of high blood pressure, or pregnancy-induced hypertension. If this is very severe, it can even be preeclampsia. Preeclampsia is extremely serious, and typically is treated with bed rest. After delivery, the high blood pressure goes away, typically without any long-term effects.
There are other, less common risks and complications that can occur with a twin pregnancy. When multiples share a placenta, it can lead to Twin-To-Twin Transfusion Syndrome, in which there is an unequal flow of blood between the babies. A small number of twins are affected by Monoamniotic Monochorionic syndrome, or Mo-Mo Twins. This happens when the twins are enclosed in a single amniotic sac. In addition, moms of multiples or twins are more likely to experience gestational diabetes. There are also increased risks of heart problems for moms of twins.
If you are undergoing fertility treatments, or have already undergone fertility treatments and have become pregnant with twins and concerned about the risks and complications, your health care provider can help you to know what to watch for and to know what your treatment options are.
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When a woman who is pregnant bleeds during her first twenty weeks of pregnancy, it is often because of a threatened miscarriage. A threatened miscarriage does not always end in an miscarriage, and sometimes it may be able to treat a threatened miscarriage before the actual miscarriage occurs.
The most common signs of a threatened miscarriage include vaginal bleeding, cramping in the abdomen, and aching of the lower back. If you exhibit these symptoms, you should contact your health care provider immediately. A health care provider will typically perform a pelvic exam to determine whether you are having a miscarriage. She may wish to take a blood test or do an ultrasound to be sure of the diagnosis.
If you are having a threatened miscarriage, your health care provider may proscribe bed rest, or treatment with progesterone. It is also likely that you will need to abstain from sex for several days. These measures are mainly to reduce your bleeding and your pain, however. Unfortunately, while some threatened miscarriages do occasionally stop with these measures, it is extremely rare. A threatened miscarriage almost always ends up as a true miscarriage.
If you are miscarrying, your health care provider will want to watch for complications. Sometimes, a miscarriage may require medical treatment. If the uterus does not empty quickly enough, it is possible for you to develop an infection or to lose too much blood. If this occurs, it is likely that your health care provider would want to perform a dilation and curettage, which will help to clear out your uterus to keep you from losing too much blood or getting an infection.
While a miscarriage can be an extremely frustrating and saddening occurrence, the good news is that miscarriages do not generally indicate a problem with future pregnancies. Less than one percent of women will ever have three miscarriages in a row. If you have had several miscarriages in a row, you should speak with your health care provider to determine the cause.
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Once a miscarriage begins, it is almost impossible for it to stop. In some extremely rare cases, the signs of a miscarriage (sometimes known as a “threatened” miscarriage) may lead to something other than an actual miscarriage. In general, however, once a miscarriage starts it will generally only end after it completes.
The most common signs of a miscarriage include abdominal cramping, lower back ache, vaginal bleeding, and vaginal discharge that may resemble a blood clot. If you experience any of these symptoms, it is important that you contact your health care provider as soon as possible. Your health care provider will want to examine you to determine whether you are actually having a miscarriage or not. She will probably perform a pelvic exam, and may also wish to take a blood test or to do an ultrasound test to be certain of the diagnosis.
If your health care provider believes that you are having a miscarriage, she may try to treat it by prescribing progesterone or by putting you on bed rest. She will also indicate that you should avoid sexual intercourse. These measures will primarily work to lessen the pain and bleeding that you are going through. These measures are generally not intended to stop the miscarriage, and will have little or no affect on whether the miscarriage occurs.
Your health care provider will also be watching for complications from your miscarriage. A miscarriage may, sometimes, require some medical treatment. If your uterus does not clear out quickly enough you will be at an increased risk of getting an infection or losing too much blood. In this case, your health care provider will want to perform a D&C, or a dilation and curettage. This will help to clear out your uterus to prevent further complications.
While a miscarriage can be an extremely frustrating and saddening occurrence, the good news is that miscarriages do not generally indicate a problem with future pregnancies. Less than one percent of women will ever have three miscarriages in a row. If you have had several miscarriages in a row, you should speak with your health care provider to determine the cause.
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Much has been written about how a woman can get through a miscarriage. To be sure, the loss of a pregnancy due to a miscarriage can be a very traumatic experience for a woman. She may feel grief, loss, guilt, depression, despair, and even anger. There are a number of things that a woman can do to help get through a miscarriage. Yet, less attention has been paid to a similar but equally important question: how can a man get through a miscarriage?
Men tend to handle their emotions differently from women. Some men are overwhelmed when they start to feel the loss or other emotions that can accompany a miscarriage. They may not know how to deal directly with those emotions. Some men may try to avoid the emotions by avoiding the topic in conversation. Other men may avoid their partner. This is particularly unfortunate, as this is a time when each partner is struggling, and when each partner could use the other’s support to get through the miscarriage.
Some men do indeed have trouble relating to the loss that a woman feels after a miscarriage, to be sure. For some men, because there is no physical change in their bodies, the pregnancy often doesn’t become really real to them until after a baby is born. In these cases, a miscarriage may not be nearly as traumatic. However, this would seem to be the exception, rather than the rule. Most men whose partner has a miscarriage do indeed react the same way emotionally as women do, even if they do not express those emotions.
In addition, while the actual miscarriage may not impact a man as directly as it does his partner, he is impacted in other ways. While his partner is struggling, he generally feels a great deal of care and concern for her. He may feel as though it is his job to try to cheer her up, for example. When this happens, it is possible that his partner may become upset, or feel like the miscarriage didn’t phase the man. Far from it, he is often just trying to help her cope with the situation the best that he knows how.
The most important factor in helping men get through a miscarriage is understanding. By being aware of how men react differently to loss, and by trying to understand the ways that men cope with loss, you can better help him through this difficult time.
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Regular exercise during pregnancy is a health and important part of making sure that your pregnancy will be a successful and happy pregnancy. However, there may be risks associated with certain types of exercises, as well as with excessive exercises.
There have not been any studies that link an excessive amount of exercise during pregnancy directly to miscarriage. However, excessive exercise can cause a variety of problems that can affect pregnancy, including dehydration, strained muscles, and a severely elevated heart rate. Certain types of exercise, such as exercise that may cause bouncing, jarring, leaping, risks of sudden abdominal injury, or sudden directional changes should be avoided. These types of exercise, while they have not conclusively been linked with miscarriage directly, can certainly create stress on your growing baby and on your body during this critical time.
The benefits of regular moderate exercise during pregnancy can include:
- an increased sense of self control
- a relief of backache
- reduction of constipation
- better sleep
- stress relief
- a body that is more prepared for birth
- a body that is more prepared for postpartum weight loss.
Certain types of exercises that are particularly good for pregnant women. Walking and swimming are some of the best all-around exercises, and the pregnant woman is no exception. Walking and swimming both work the major muscle groups, work to strengthen your heart, and carry very little risk of injury to you or to your unborn baby.
Yoga is another beneficial form of exercise during pregnancy. Not only does it help you stay fit, it helps improve your energy level and allows you to become more in tune or intimate with your body. Yoga can help with the aches and pains of pregnancy and with mental issues such as moodiness. In turn, yoga can help you have a smooth pregnancy and natural childbirth.
Some pregnant women have had success with Pilates, jogging, dancing, water aerobics, biking and even weight training. Of course, you should check with your physician before starting or continuing any exercise regimen while pregnant. You should also make sure that you keep in tune with your body while exercising. Recognize the signs of fatigue. Avoid becoming overheated or dehydrated. You should also try to include some relaxation and stretching both before and after your exercise program.
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