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An open adoption is one where the adopted child and the adoptive family have some degree or another of interaction with the birth mother or the birth family. This interaction can take the form of emails, letters, phone calls, and even face-to-face visits. An open adoption works a little bit differently for every family. While an open adoption may be more difficult for the birth family or for the adoptive family, there are many potential benefits of open adoption to the child that may be worth considering.
A child in an open adoption is more likely to be able to develop her sense of self-confidence and her identity. By having access to her birth family, she can more readily answer the questions that she will face, such as “where did I come from?” She also will have access to important information about her family tree. This can be especially useful in terms of medical information, as a variety of genetic questions can more readily be answered. Further, an open adoption may help the child to avoid the sense of abandonment that adopted children often have.
For birth parents, an open adoption provides some benefits, as well. You will never have to be uncertain about your child’s well-being. You will have a greater sense of control about where your baby is placed. And, while it might seem on the surface that an open adoption would make it harder for you to mourn and to move on, the fact of the matter is that having the opportunity to visit and talk with the adopted child and the adopted family will usually inncrease your ability to deal with the loss.
For adoptive parents, there are some benefits to open adoption, as well. You will be better equiped to help your adopted child as he struggles for self-identity. You will be better prepared for medical emergencies, having access to a detailed family medical history. You will also not have to worry about the birth family’s intentions, because you have ongoing communication and contact with them. And, if their intentions ever go bad, you will probably be able to know a lot sooner than if you did not have contact with the birth parents.
Whether you are considering having your child adopted, or whether you are considering adopting a child, you should give some thought to whether an open adoption will work for you.
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The fact of the matter is that, legally, the adoption system is set up such that a child who is adopted is permanently attached to his or her adoptive parents. Even his or her birth certificate is re-issued. The original birth records are sealed, unable to be opened. It is feasible that a child who was adopted could grow up never knowing that they were adopted, because their parents did not tell their child they were adopted.
The fact of the matter is, however, that this sort of practice has become less and less common, less and less possible, and, quite frankly, less and less recommended. Most research suggests that a child who is adopted will benefit from knowing early on that they were adopted. As they get older and are able to understand more and more, the parents can explain more and more to the child about how the child was adopted.
Some parents might not tell their child they were adopted because they are afraid of how the child will react. They are worried that the child will resent the adoptive family, or that the child will rebel against the adoptive family.
In other situations, some parents don’t tell their child they were adopted to spare the child’s feelings. They are worried that the child will feel abandoned and unwanted if the child finds out that they were adopted. Or, if the child’s birth parents abused or neglected the child, the adoptive family may wish to spare the child the painful information. While this concern for the child’s feelings is definitely noble, most experts would suggest that it is misguided. The potential damage of not telling their child they were adopted far outweighs the potential damage of telling the child they were adopted.
Ultimately, however, it is up to the adoptive parents whether or not they want to tell their child they were adopted. It is their right to decide if, how, and when their child will know that they were adopted.
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There may be many different reasons that parents upt their children up for adoption. These reasons will, of course, vary from one family or individual to the next. Still, there are some relatively common situations that will lead parents to put their children up for adoption.
In terms of infants, parents most often put their children up for adoption for one of several reasons. It may be that the mother is young, even a minor, and is not socially capable of raising the child. In other cases, the woman may be unmarried, and have not planned on becoming pregnant, and believes that having a baby now would interfere with her long-term goals and plans, or that she would not be able to financially provide for her baby. In other cases, an “unwanted” pregnancy may wind up in adoption for the sake of avoiding an abortion.
When it comes for older children, it is less common for parents to put their children up for adopton and more common that the children will have been removed from their home. In all-too many cases, this is because of a situation where there has been neglect or abuse of one form or of another. When this happens, the court will strip the parents of their parental rights, and the children will become wards of the state. They will typically be put into a foster home setting until they can be adopted, if at all possible.
In some cases, if a child has special needs, parents may not be able to physically or emotionally care for their children, and will put their children up for adoption. It may be, for example, that the parents have some form of disability themselves, or it may be that the parents are just not equipped, in whatever way, to take care of the special-needs child.
Whatever the reason that parents put their children up for adoption, it does not change the fact that there are many children who need a home. This is especially true for older children, or for children that have special needs. If you are considering adoption, you should consider what exactly it is that you are able to do for an adopted child, to see what sort of child you might be capable of adopting.
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It seems as though, just about every week, some famous person is adopting a child. Whether it is a movie star, a musician, or some other form of entertainer, it is not all that uncommon to hear about a famous person adopting a child. But, why do famous people adopt children?
The fact of the matter is that famous people generally have the same reasons for adopting children that people who are not famous have. It may be that they are, physically, unable to have a child. Fertility problems dont just happen to one type of person, they can happen to anyone whether they are famous or not.
It may be that the famous person has become educated about adoption, and about the need for adoptive families. The fact of the matter is that, especially when you consider the entire world, there is a great need for families who are willing to adopt a child. Adopting children may be one way for famous people to feel like they are helping the world out.
In some cases, It could be that the famous person feels as though adoption will be a better option for them, in terms of their career, than having a baby would be. While it is probably true that this particular reason quite frequently applies to famous people who are models or actresses, or to whom their figure is an important part of their job, this can also be true for people who are not famous people. Some women may feel that the nine months of pregnancy would interfere with their job, or may not want to take that much time out of work to have a baby. They may believe that adopting a child offers them the chance to have a child without the potentially negative parts of pregnancy and child birth.
Finally, another reason that famous people adopt children just might be because they can. Famous people often have the resources, in terms of finances and/or influence, to go through the adoption process with a minimum amount of stress and strain. While a middle-class family might have to save and struggle to pay for an adoption, the cost of an adoption may be relatively painless to a famous person.
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There are certain things that you need to know before putting your child up for adoption. Putting your child up for adoption is not an easy decision to make, and it is a decision that is never taken lightly.
The first thing that you need to know before putting your child up for adoption is that, once the adoption process is done, you will have no legal right to have any contact with or knowledge about your child or that child’s adoptive family. While many adoptions today are considered “open” adoptions, where the adoptive family intends for you to be able to have some form of contact or another with your child, the fact of the matter is that, legally, they can pretty much do whatever it is that they want. Know ahead of time that, if you later want a relationship with your child, you will face an uphill battle in terms of the legal process.
Before putting your child up for adoption, you need to know that you are going to experience a great loss. It is likely that you will experience some degree of grief or another for the rest of your life. While putting your child up for adoption may indeed be the best thing for your child and for you, it will be something that will haunt you for a long, long time. Be prepared for these feeling of loss, and be ready to grieve for your lost child.
You need to know, before putting up your child for adoption, that your child may grow up resenting you. Your child may feel abandoned, and may never know or understand the reasons that you put your child up for adoption. As an adult, your child may try to find you, and want to meet you. You need to be aware of the possibility that you will one day have to answer your child’s questions.
Finally, you should know some things about the decision itself. First, you generally have some time after the birth to change your mind. The laws may vary in your state, but it is usually at least several weeks. Second, you need to know that you can wait to put your child up for adoption after trying to be a parent. You are in control of what happens to your child right up until the final process occurs.
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International adoption refers to the process whereby a citizen of one country, for example the United States, adopts a child from another country. International adoption seems to be gaining popularity in the United States. As there are fewer and fewer children in the United States that are available for adoption, particularly when it comes to infants, more prospective parents are turning to International adoption.
International adoption is a legal agreement between one person or one couple that wants to adopt a child and the court of a foreign country. A foreign court can authorize prospective parents from the United States to adopt a child in their country, and they can also forbid it. The specific laws that govern international adoptions can and do vary greatly from one country to another.
The foreign country makes adoption laws that determine who can adopt, for example. In some countries, the government leaves the screening process entirely to the adoption agencies. In some countries, for example, a specific religion might be a requirement for adoption. In some international adoptions, there is an age limit as to who can adopt. There are no countries who currently allow homosexual couples to adopt. However, there are many countries that will allow singles to adopt.
There are some laws in the United States that govern international adoption as well. For example, if you have ever been convicted of child abuse or neglect, you cannot adopt. Also, in the United States, you must make a minimum of $25,000 to adopt. There may be other regulations that you need to follow, as well. There are also specific papers that you must fill out and a process that you need to go through to have an international adoption.
The fees for an international adoption can vary as well. It can cost a couple anywhere from $10,000 to $20,000 before it is all said and done. The process of an international adoption can take typically between 7 and 18 months. It depends, in part, on the specific country. It also depends on how quickly you get your documents and papers filed.
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An open adoption is, essentially, an adoption in which the child who is being adopted has the possibility of having a relationship with his birth family. Contact is allowed and even encouraged between the birth family and the adopted child. This is in contrast to a closed or a semi-open adoption, in which the adopted child may never have any contact with his birth family until he is over the age of 18, if ever.
A birth family is able to know specific, identifying information about the adoptive parents in an open adoption. The birth mother can select the adoptive family, and will often meet them ahead of the birth. In some instances, the adoptive family may even be in the delivery room when the baby is born. In a semi-open adoption, the birth mother is given only profiles with non-identifying and non-specific information about the birth parents.
In an open adoption, direct, one-on-one contact between the birth family and the adopted child may take place. This can take the form of visits, phone calls, letters, or even emails. Contact is also encouraged and necessary between the adopting parents and the birth family, as the adopting parents will be intricately involved in facilitating the contact between the adopted child and her birth family.
An open adoption can be more of a hassle for both the birth parents and for the adoptive parents. However, there is research to suggest that adopted children who have access to their birth family may benefit in a variety of ways. It helps to give a child a more complete sense of identity and a bigger sense of wholeness. An open adoption is based on the idea that it is best for the child to know his birth family, but to be raised by his adoptive family. While an open adoption can be awkward and uncomfortable at first, at least for the adoptive parents and the birth parents, over time much of this dissipates.
If you are considering adoption, or if you are placing your baby into adoption, you should consider the possible benefits of an open adoption.
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If you have arranged to adopt a baby that has not yet been born, the fact of the matter is that there is some risk involved that the Birth mom will change her mind. While the specifics of the laws vary from one state to the next, there is always a point up to and after the birth of the baby that, if the birth mom changes her mind, she may be able to keep her baby, rather than letting you adopt the baby. The amount of time that she will have to change her mind will vary, but it may be as little as a few days, or as long as a couple of months or more. You should be certain that you are aware of what the regulations in your state are in terms of the birth mom changing her mind. Your adoption agency or your adoption attorney will often be able to provide this sort of information to you.
Having said that, it is important to keep things into perspective. In most cases, it is almost always better for a child to be raised by her birth parents rather than be raised by adoptive parents. This does not mean that adoptive parents don’t do a good job, or even a better job than birth parents; it just means that, if the birth mom changes her mind and decides to raise the child herself, everyone is usually better off if you wait for another adoption opportunity. While there are cases where this might not be true, overall it tends to be the case.
Some companies in some states even offer adoption insurance. Adoption insurance helps you to recoup your financial losses in the event that the birth mom changes her mind, or that something unfortunate happens to the baby, such as miscarriage or stillbirth. While adoption insurance cannot help your emotional reaction to the birth mom changing her mind, it can make you financially able to try to adopt again.
Planning for an adoption includes planning for the possibility that the birth mom could indeed change her mind. By being aware of the possibility, you can prepare emotionally, as well as financially.
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The laws on adoption can differ greatly from one state or locality to another. While there are a few general laws on adoption that are national in the United States, most laws on adoption are determined at the state level, and administered by the states. However, there are some different types of laws on adoption that tend to be common between the states. These laws can include almost any part of the adoption process, and typically help to govern the procedures involved in the adoption process.
In every state, the child’s birth parents, both mother and father (assuming that the father has legal paternity), have the right to either consent to or forbid their child’s adoption. Having said that, there are laws on adoption in almost every state that indicate specific reasons for which the state may end or terminate the right of one or both parent to consent to or forbid their child’s adoption. Some of the types of reasons can include things like abuse, neglect, mental incompetence, and child abandonment.
Some states also require older children to consent to being adopted, as well. Some states set this age at 10 years old. Others set it at 12 or 14 years old. Here again, most states have a provision in which a judge has the ability to override the child’s consent. Some states don’t address the issue of the child’s consent at all in their laws on adoption.
There are other differing elements in laws on adoption. In some states, the rights of the birth parents can be reinstated even after adoption, while in others they cannot. Some states govern independent adoptions, and many still forbid them. Other states have laws that determine what adoption agencies are allowed to do and not to do. Some states have laws on adoption that specify certain age requirements for prospective adoptive parents.
Generally, it is best to speak with an attorney or an adoption agency to find out what the laws on adoption may be in your own state or locality.
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When a person first thinks about adoption, they usually tend to think about adopting an infant or a newborn baby. They also tend to think of a situation where the adoptive parents and the birth family never meet, have no contact, and may not even know who each other are. They tend to think, also, of adopting a child from a local agency, from somewhere nearby to where they live. While all of these things are possible and do happen, there are actually many different types of adoption to be considered.
First of all, adoptions can be classified by whether they are private or through an agency. A private adoption is arranged through an attorney, without the assistance of an adoption agency. This sort of adoption is probably less common than agency adoptions. However, even with agency adoptions, there are differences. The adoption may be through a private adoption agency, or it may be through the state’s agency.
There are also different types of adoption in terms of how the adopting family relates with the birth family. For example, with a closed adoption, no identifying information is shared between the two families. This sort of information is not available. While is may be possible for the families to meet, names and addresses are not given. This stands in contrast to the open adoption, in which the birth parents and the adoptive parents do exchange information, and are able and willing to be in contact with one another. In an open adoption, the adopted child typically has the opportunity to relate to her birth family as well, whether it is in person, or through telephone, mail, or e-mail.
Another difference in the type of adoption has to do with the location. It may be that the adoption occurs within the adoptive family’s home area or state. It can also happen that a child from another state is adopted. There are even international adoptions, in which birth parents and adoptive parents live in different countries.
Beyond these general different types of adoption, there are other sorts of differences. It may be that the child is an infant, or that the child is older. The child may or may not have special needs. The child may be a foster child first. It is also possible for a step-parent to adopt a step-child.
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