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When you think about adoption in terms of the entire world, the fact of the matter is that you have to think about it in terms of what country has the most children up for adoption. If one of the reasons that you are considering adoption is because you think you can make a difference in the life of a child who otherwise may not have much of a future, it is important to know where exactly the need is the greatest.
However, it can be somewhat difficult to know what country has the most children up for adoption. While it would seem that the obvious answer would be the most populous country in the world, China, there is no way to accurately verify exactly how many children China has up for adoption. As a communist country, China’s records regarding the number of children up for adoption are not exactly available for us who live in the West to have access to.
We are, however, able to look at other regions of the world with some more accuracy. There are many children, for example, up for adoption in the countries of the former Soviet Union. It has been estimated that there are as many as one and a half million children who are not living at home in central and eastern Europe. This is in contrast to many other european nations, who may have as few or fewer children up for adoption than the United States has children up for adoption.
These numbers are reflected in the trends in international adoptions in the United States. Adoptions from China, for example, are about one quarter of all of the international adoptions each and every year. Adoptions from Russia and from other former Soviet countries come in second, in terms of which countries have the most children adopted by people in the United states.
Proportionately, developed countries tend to have less children up for adoption than countries that are developing. For example, it is probably going to be as hard to adopt a child from England as it is to adopt a child in the United States. However, it will probably be easier to adopt a child from Sierra Leone than it will be from either England or the United States.
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In the same way that a new baby is welcomed into the world with a baby shower, there is no reason at all that an adopted child should not be welcomed into her adopted family by throwing a welcoming party! A welcoming party for an adopted child is a wonderful and exciting way to celebrate the event of adding an important member to the family.
By throwing a welcome party for an adopted child, you are telling the child that he is significant. His presence in your home is something that you are happy about! He is a blessing that you have waited a long time for. Not only that, but your friends and family believe that he is an important part of their lives now, as well. A welcome party for an adopted child is a great way to emphasize his inclusion in your family. Still, you will probably want to hold off on the welcome part for a week or two at least, while the adopted child gets to know your family better.
A traditional baby shower usually has a baby-centered theme. If your adopted child is older, the welcome party that you throw for her will obviously be different. If she is three years old and loves Cookie Monster, for example, you might throw a Cookie Monster-themed welcome party. If you have adopted your child from overseas, you might want to try to incorporate some of your adopted child’s traditions or foods into the welcome party. For example, you might serve popular Chinese dishes if your adopted child is Chinese.
Throwing a welcome party for an adopted child will also have different sorts of activities and gifts than a baby shower would have. Gifts might be more age-appropriate, for example. Instead of a baby carrier, you might buy the adopting family a toddler booster seat. Instead of rattles, you might buy some building blocks or other age-appropriate toys that the child would like to play with.
Finally, throwing a welcome party for an adopted child can also include other children. While it is rare for children to attend a baby shower, there aren’t many reasons why children couldn’t come to meet the adopted child.
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When a baby enters a family, whether it is through birth or through adoption, it is a reason to celebrate. There is no good reason why a couple who is about to adopt a baby or a child should not have a shower in the same way that a couple who is going to have a baby the traditional way should have a shower. Still, throwing a baby shower for an adopting family may, in some ways, be very different from throwing a baby shower for a family who is going to birth a baby.
In terms of the theme for the baby shower, if the adopting family is adopting a baby, the theme will probably be along the same lines as for a regular baby shower. If you’d having a Sesame Street-themed baby shower for a couple having a baby, there’s no reason you couldn’t have a Sesame Street-themed baby shower for an adopting family. In the same way, the gifts for a baby shower for an adopting family, if they are adopting a baby, will be the same as the gifts for a regular baby shower.
Games are an area where things might be different when throwing a shower for an adopting family. For example, many baby shower games focus on the pregnant mom-to-be. Obviously, games that have to do with guessing the size of the mother’s belly, or measuring the mother’s belly wouldn’t be appropriate. However, there are still many games, such as baby item memory, that can be played. You can still also guess the birth day and weight of the baby, if the adopted baby has not yet been born.
Here, however, is where things can be different. If the baby is already born, and especially if the baby isn’t a baby at all but is an older child, you might consider holding off on the shower for the adopting family until after the adopted child arrives. In this respect, you can help the older child to celebrate the adoption with the adopting family, and recognize the excitement and happiness that she is bringing into the world.
With an older child, obviously, gifts, themes, and games will all be different, and should center around the child.
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Believe it or not, starting up an adoption agency is something that you can do with a relative degree of ease. In terms of starting businesses, an adoption agency is not that much different from many other businesses. You have to know the industry, you have to know the market, you have to know the laws, and you have to have a plan.
If you don’t have much experience in the adoption field, you will need to spend some time brushing up. You will want to find out everything there is to know about adoptions from any source that you can, including social workers, state adoption departments, magazines and journals devoted to adoption, and adoption agencies and organizations. Understanding the industry is the first step in starting up an adoption agency.
The next step in starting up the adoption agency is to know the market. You need to understand the area that you live in, to know how many families there will be that are interested in adoption. If you live in a very rural area, your job will be much more challenging than if you live in a larger city. You also need to know who your competition in the market is, whether there are other adoption agencies in the area or not.
You also need to know what laws apply to adoption agencies in your state. These definitely vary from one state to another. For example, most states require that your casework supervisor has to have a M.S.W. degree, or a comparable master’s degree in psychology or even counseling. You also need to be aware of any licensing requirements, as well as any regulations regarding the type of business that you have. For the most part, there are state licensing specialists that can help you know what licenses you need to have.
Finally, you need to develop a good business plan. You will want to outline activities and yoru budget for the first two years. This should include the type of adoptions you offer, what services you provide, information about your plans for advertising, information about training of staff, a projection of income and expenses, and what will make your adoption agency unique among the others in your area.
With a lot of hard work, you can definitely start up an adoption agency.
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Fertility treatments can be extremely frustrating, especially when they fail. Many times, with fertility treatments, you get your hopes up, hoping for the best, only to have those hopes dashed back to the ground with the onset of a period. In addition to the loss of hope, fertility treatments are not inexpensive; a cycle of In Vitro Fertilization, for example, can cost thousands of dollars, and is not guaranteed to work at all.
When fertility treatments have failed, adoption is often the next step that families consider. In fact, adoption agencies will sometimes even market themselves specifically to couples who have had fertility treatments, and claim to make it part of their process to help resolve infertility issues. While some adoption agencies may indeed try to address infertility issues, this is not always the case.
For some couples, adoption after failed fertility treatments is a great option. It allows the couple to have a child of their own, to love and care for and do all of the things that they would likely do with their own biological child. If a couple is able to accept their own fertility issues, and not look on adoption as a “last resort,” it is a good choice. However, there is always the possibility that, especially if a couple has had failed infertility treatments for a long time, that the adopted child will indeed seem as a last resort, and that the child might even be made to feel as though he is second-best.
Some couples who have had failed infertility treatments do look to adoption, and then find out later on that they are able to conceive a child. Here again, there is always a risk that the biological child will somehow be favored over the adopted child. Here is where couples have to be able to make certain that they, and their children, understand that the adopted child is just as much a part of the family as the biological child, and that the parents are parents to both, equally.
Ultimately, whether or not you are willing to consider adoption as your next step after failed infertility treatments is up to you. By preparing for the issues that can arise, however, there is generally no reason that you can’t consider adoption.
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The practice of same-Sex families adopting is a controversial issue. In addition, it is becoming more and more common for countries and states to legislate the specific practices that adoption agencies are allowed to follow, in terms of same-sex families adopting.
There are a couple of issues that make same-sex families adopting a controversial issue. On the one hand, same-sex couples argue that they should have the “right” to adopt, just like a heterosexual couple. They also argue that a two-parent household is better able to provide for a child, and that a same-sex family is as good as, or better than, a single person adopting.
On the other side of things, those that don’t support same-sex families adopting argue that children raised in same-sex families will be maladjusted. They argue that the children may be more prone to gender confusion, to a biased sexual orientation, or any number of psychological or social problems. They may argue that same-sex families are immoral or even unnatural, and may object to same-sex families on religious or ethical grounds.
Some countries allow same-sex families to adopt. These include Belgium, Spain, England, Sweden, and several others. In the United States, a person who is homosexual may adopt just as a heterosexual person may adopt. However, this is where the legal issue, in the United States, becomes tricky. Generally speaking, it is not possible for two people who are not married to both adopt a child. Because same-sex marriage is generally not legal, this means that only one of the couple in the same sex family could adopt. This generally will apply to heterosexual couples that are not married, as well. Still, there are some states that have explicitly passed laws allowing same-sex families to adopt. Other states have had legal court challenges that have suggested that same-sex families can adopt, as well.
Finally, in terms of international adoptions, each foreign country from which a person might adopt will have its own policy as far as whether or not same sex families can adopt a child from their country.
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International adoption has become more and more popular for families who are seeking to adopt. The child adoption statistics from around the world reflect several interesting trends over the last several years.
Interestingly enough, it seems that child adoption from countries around the world is more common in some places than in others. For example, New York has about 2/3 the population of California, yet it has around 15% more international adoptions. These statistics reflect how different regions around the United States have different practices.
First, more than 250,000 children have been adopted internationally from the United States in the last thirty years. Even more telling is the fact that the average number of adoptions per year has actually doubled in the last decade or so. This statistic suggests that there is growing interest in and education about international adoption, and that some countries are making international adoption easier.
Another telling factor in adoption statistics around the world is that, in terms of international adoptions, girls outnumber boys 64% to 36%. Gender is, obviously, a factor when it comes to adoption around the world. Another interesting statistic regarding child adoption around the world is that children from China make up more than 25% of the U.S. international adoptions. All in all, somewhere around 5,000 children are adopted from China each year. By far, these Chinese children tend also to be girls. This happens for both cultural, as well as legal reasons.
Today, China and Russia are the countries from which most U.S. international adoptions take place. This adoption statistic has changed in the last twenty years. It used to be that countries like South Korea and South Vietnam outnumbered other countries, as these children were often the children of soldiers with people native to those countries.
A staggering statistic regarding child adoption around the world is that somewhere around 1.5 million children that are living in Central and Eastern Europe live in out-of-home care, such as orphanages and foster care. Even with the number of U.S. international adoptions, that number of children without parental care continues to grow at an alarming rate. This would seem to be the place where there is the most need for child adoption around the world.
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It is becoming more and more common for people in the United States to adopt children from around the world. While adopting from around the world began to become popular after the Second World War, the number of people in the United States adopting from around the world has continued to increase since then. International adoptions are a wonderful way for people in the United States to meet the need for adoption around the world.
World adoptions have made up over 250,000 adoptions since the 1970s. At one time, the largest number of adoptions from around the world would take place in South Korea and South Vietnam. Today, since the fall of the Berlin wall and the ending of the Soviet Union, children from Russia and the ex-soviet countries make up a good portion of adoptions from around the world. Still, it is estimated that there are more than a million and a half children in central and in eastern Europe that are not being cared for by parents, and that could benefit from being adopted by a loving family from the United States.
The largest percentage of international adoptions in the United States take place in China. Not only is china the largest country in the world, it is also one of the countries around the world with the biggest need for adoption. Because of the laws that the Chinese government makes, along with certain cultural values that place a significance on the need for a male heir, many more female children are adopted from China than male children. This tends to be true worldwide, as female adoptions from around the world tend to outnumber male adoptions by a margin of three to one.
Adopting a child from somewhere else around the world can be, in many ways, quicker and easier than adopting a child in the United States. Certainly, for example, if you are looking for a Caucasian infant to adopt, an international adoption will usually be much quicker. However, in terms of older children, there are many already in the United States that need homes, as well.
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The question of whether abortion versus adoption is right for you is an unfortunate question to begin with. It implies, at best, that you have an unwanted pregnancy. At worst, it can indicate that you are pregnant due to a horrible crime such as rape or incest. Add to this the fact that the issue of abortion is such a hot-button social and political issue, and the woman who has to decide which is right for her can often feel overwhelmed, afraid, and alone.
To make the decision of abortion versus adoption, it is important that you know all of the facts about both. You should find out everything that you can, for example, about the actual abortion procedure. You should learn what the possible complications with the procedure are, as well as any possible long-term effects. You should also take into consideration a whole variety of other factors, including your religious beliefs, your political beliefs, the opinion of the father, and the possible social consequences.
You should do the same with adoption. You should learn about the process of adoption. You should find out what the need is in your state for babies to adopt. You should find out what sorts of medical care an adoption agency can provide for you during your pregnancy. You should consider also the long-term consequences of adoption, and explore arrangements that may make an adoption easier, such as a family adoption or an open adoption.
Conscience must play a role in deciding what is right for you, as well. Outside of the political issue has to be the personal moral issue. You will have to live with the decision for the rest of your life, and you will have to accept the fact that your decision will be permanent.
It is definitely worth the time that it takes to make this decision in the most informed way possible. While there is certainly a lot of emotion that goes along with an unplanned and unwanted pregnancy, you cannot make the decision about what is best for you on emotion alone. You need to be informed about your options and the implications surrounding them.
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Writing an adoption recommendation letter is not that different from writing other sorts of recommendation letters. An adoption recommendation letter speaks to your personal knowledge of the person, to your estimation of their suitability for the situation, and the person’s strengths and weaknesses that you have been able to observe.
There are some things to consider when writing an adoption recommendation letter. First, you need to take this task as a serious responsibility. When you agree to write the adoption recommendation letter, you should first be certain that you understand who will be reading the letter, and what it is that the letter will be used for, exactly. You should also find out what sorts of information should be included in the adoption recommendation letter. If you don’t believe that you can adequately write the adoption recommendation letter, it is not uncommon for the other person to write the letter and for you, if you agree with what the letter says, to sign it after the fact. In addition, you will want to keep a copy of the adoption recommendation letter for your own records.
If you are writing your own adoption recommendation letter, there are several things that should be included. An adoption recommendation letter should include information about how you know the person that you are recommending. It should tell how long you have known them, and in what capacity. It should talk about the person’s strengths, qualifications, and any other skills that you have observed. You should discuss their character, their contributions to the community, their accomplishments, their dependability, and their consistence. You should summarize the types of interactions that you have seen the person have with children, whether they are your children or whether they are other children. You should also discuss the persons temperament and attitudes about child rearing. Finally, you need to summarize the adoption recommendation letter with why you recommend the person, and how fully you recommend them.
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