Becoming a step parent to a toddler is much easier than becoming a step parent to an older child. Many times the toddler does not understand about a divorce, parents separating, and one parent remarrying. The idea of a step parent does not really make sense and the toddler simply accepts your presence as someone new and loving in their life. If you really want to have a good relationship with your step child it is best to begin treating your step child as if he/she were your own. Trying to become a step parent to an older child is very difficult, but with toddlers it is fairly easy. Simply discuss with your new spouse what role he/she wants you to have in the life of the toddler. Some parents will want the step parent to step in and role play as the other biological parent. This works great in circumstances where the other biological parent is not active in the childs life. Sometimes this can work well even if the biological parent is active in the childs life because a toddler will not become angry and will respect authority in many cases. Once you have determined what your role will be then you should step in. If you act like your toddlers parent and show love and discipline then the toddler will respond to you as your child. Toddlers have no concept of only having two parents so having three will not be a big problem. You must keep up your commitment to the child, however, in order to ensure that as he/she grows your relationship is maintained and you are viewed as another parent. Remember, if you want your life to be easy down the road then put in the effort and time to develop a relationship with your new step child. Doing this will create a lasting bond that will forever be a joy to you and the child. If you put off bonding with the child until they are older then you will create a bigger problem and have a much more difficult time developing a relationship.

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